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It Takes a Village…

Thursday  at our dome I-group we had the honor of having Mike Biskup  Mike is actively pursuing his vision by using his talent in translating his experience within the Mankind Project.

The following is his album that is available for a mere $7.

Takes a Village to Raise a Man

100 percent of the profits will be to fund weekend scholarships in the NW area.

Check it out!!

Women Within

Aloha Hawaii MKP Men,

My name is Amber Bonnici. My husband Tony has been a part of MKP since it first came to the islands. I have watched him grow and change and over the years have often looked for a similar experience as a woman. This last September I took a training with the sister organization of MKP called Women Within. That power of that weekend shifted my life. I want to bring that weekend and e-circles (similar to i-groups) to the Hawaiian islands.

I want to get an idea of how many prospective women would be interested in doing the training on the Big Island. I have included some information on the organization and weekend below. Could you please have any interested women, please contact me at or (808) 936-3332.

As you need a community of men to support your mission, we women do too. I look forward to the unfolding of women’s work here in Hawai’i.

Mahalo for your assistance,

Amber Bonnici




The Women Within Training provides a safe and nurturing environment for you to explore how your life could be different and to reaffirm your wholeness as a woman. Since 1988 thousands of women from more than 20 countries have chosen to experience this powerful transformation weekend.


Our mission is “To create educational opportunities for women to discover the power of who they are and encourage women to communicate this truth in their relationships, families, workplaces and communities.”


The Women Within Training was created by women, for women. It is a unique opportunity to explore your essence as a woman and your life choices. The training is not therapy. It offers a series of exercises, guided imagery and intense individual and group work so that you can see and transform what holds you back. The one-to-one staff ratio allows for personal attention and ensures that you are witnessed and supported as you reclaim you passion for lie and belief in yourself.


Each member of the staff has walked the same Women Within path by experiencing the training herself. We are women of all ages and cultural backgrounds. From age 18 to 80 and beyond. We are grandmothers, mothers, sisters, daughters, partners and friends. We come from many different professions and walks of life. Many women choose to support Women Within by volunteering their time and resources. As small number of senior staff are paid to facilitate the weekend.


How will you know if this is the right time in your life to do the Women Within training?

At Women Within, we trust that each woman intuitively knows what is right for her. The training provides the tools to delve deeper into your own inner wisdom and see which parts of yourself need further acknowledgment and integration, so that you can live your life to the fullest. We are there to support you- in all your potential and power, with all your shadows and challenges- to be who you want to be. The only requirement for attendance is an openness to experiencing yourself.


How can one weekend possibly change your life?

For some, it is the opportunity to be heard as they discover their voice and speak their truth. For others, it is having the space and time to experience intense emotions without judgment . Still for others, it is the rare experience of compassion and strength created by women coming together to witness, accept, empower and honor themselves. You decide what you will take away from this creatively choreographed weekend. You decide where you are ready to go.


“During the weekend, I spent time with myself, my real self. After years of not wanting to look . I discovered I’m not so bad after all. Just a little sad and a little angry. Nothing a little compassion can’t sort out.” ~Louise Le Gat, London, UK


“I know myself better now. I am able to feel my feelings instead of denying them. I understand the difference between my thoughts and feelings. I stand my ground instead of blowing in the breeze to everyone else’s desires. I can say no!” ~Ann Beck, Grand Ledge, MI


“When I went to the weekend I had a hole in my heart, a missing piece that kept me from being whole. At the weekend I found that piece and it has remained with me ever since.” ~Barbara Vittetoe, Puyallup, WA


“At the training I learned how to speak from my heart. My relationships with both men an women have improved because I can communicate more clearly when I need, what I want and who I am. It’s a lot of work but worth the effort.” ~Anne Recchia, Rochester, NY


“The Woman Within Training moved me forward and more deeply into my own life, through issues that used to block me, toward a perspective of valuing all parts of my past and all parts of myself. Being part of the Women Within Community has opened new paradigms for me about community, collaboration and culture. I feel more connected not only to my own life but also to history and my vision for the future.” ~Bonnie Reagan, Chicago, IL


Declare amnesty for the fool in you…..

Declare amnesty for the part of you that you don’t love very well.
Forgive that poor sucker. Hold its hand and take it out to dinner and a movie. Tactfully offer it a chance to make amends for the dumb things it has done.
And then do a dramatic reading of this proclamation by the playwright Theodore Rubin:

“I must learn to love the fool in me — the one who feels too much, talks too much, takes too many chances, wins sometimes and loses often, lacks self-control, loves and hates, hurts and gets hurt,promises and breaks promises, laughs and cries. It alone protects me against that utterly self-controlled, masterful tyrant whom I also harbor and who would rob me of human aliveness, humility, and dignity but for my fool.”

The greatest gift you can give might be the gift that you yourself were never given.

Give that gift.

The most valuable service you have to offer your fellow humans may be the service you have always wished were performed for you.

Offer that service.

An experience that wounded you could move you to help people who’ve been similarly wounded.

Heal yourself by healing others.

“The problem, if you love it, is as beautiful as the sunset,” wrote J. Krishnamurti. “The obstacle is the path,” says the Zen proverb.

What frustrating puzzle do you love the best?

—Robert Breszny
Excerpt from  “Subterranean Pronoia Therapy.”

On Vulnerability and Shame….

Two great videos

On Vulnerability

On Shame

Thanks to Dave Mabelle for this contribution!

A Hopi Prophecy

Oraibi, Arizona, June 8, 2000 (???)

You have been telling people that this is the Eleventh Hour, now you must go back and tell the people that this is the Hour.
And there are things to be considered. . . .

Where are you living?

What are you doing?

What are your relationships?

Are you in right relation?

Where is your water?

Know your garden.

It is time to speak your truth.

Create your community.

Be good to each other.

And do not look outside yourself for your leader.

Then he clasped his hands together, smiled, and said, “This could be a good time!

There is a river flowing now very fast. It is so great and swift that there are those who will be afraid. They will try to hold onto the shore. They will feel they are being torn apart and will suffer greatly. Know the river has its destination. The elders say we must let go of the shore, push off into the middle of the river, keep our eyes open, and our heads above the water.

And I say, see who is in there with you and celebrate. At this time in history, we are to take nothing personally, least of all ourselves. For the moment that we do, our spiritual growth and journey come to a halt.

The time of the one wolf is over.  Gather yourselves!

Banish the word ‘struggle’ from your attitude and your vocabulary.

All that we do now must be done in a sacred manner and in celebration.

We are the ones we’ve been waiting for.

No Way to Happiness….

“For a long time it had seemed to me that life was about to begin – real life. But there was always some obstacle in the way, something to be gotten through first, some unfinished business, time still to be served, or a debt to be paid. Then life would begin. At last it dawned on me that these obstacles were my ‘life.’ This perspective has helped me to see that there is no way to happiness. Happiness is the way.”

“So treasure every moment that you have and treasure it more because you shared it with someone special, special enough to spend your time…and remember that time waits for no one. So, stop waiting until you finish school, until you go back to school, until you lose ten pounds, until you gain ten pounds, until you have kids, until your kids leave the house, until you start work, until you retire, until your car or home is paid off, until spring, until summer, until fall, until winter, until you are off welfare, until the first or fifteenth, until your song comes on, until you’ve had a drink, until you’ve sobered up, until you die, until you are born again to decide that there is no better time than right now to be happy.”

On Fathers

How do we forgive our fathers? Maybe in a
dream. He’s in your power. You twist his arm.

But you’re not sure it was he that stole your money.

You feel calmer and you decide to let him go free.

Or he’s the one, as in a dream of mine, I must pull from the water,
but I never knew it or wouldn’t have done
it, until I saw the street-theater play so close up I was moved to actions I’d never before taken.

Do we forgive our fathers for leaving us too often or forever when we were little?

Maybe for scaring us with unexpected rage or making us nervous because there never
seemed to be any rage there at all?

Do we forgive our fathers for marrying or not marrying our mothers?
For divorcing or not divorcing our mothers?
And shall we forgive them for their excesses of warmth, of coldness?

Shall we forgive them for pushing or leaning? For shutting doors?
For speaking only through layers of cloth,or never speaking, or never being silent?

Do we forgive our fathers in our age or in theirs?
Or in their deaths. Saying it to them or not saying it?

If we forgive our fathers, what is left?

Dick Lourie, Forgiving Our Fathers,
Hanging Loose Press,
pps 147-149,
and as appears in
Sherman Alexie’s  film, Smoke Signals,

some More words on Fathers –

Knock Knock

May I Be Frank

We’ve all had that moment of pure frustration – banging our heads into a wall, and not knowing which way to turn(raise your hands)

May I Be Frank tells the story of a  54 old Sicilian from Brooklyn, NY, with a lifetime of drug & alcohol addiction and everything that comes with that, including Hepatitis-C, is taken on a 42 day journey, by 3 twenty somethings. Using Raw Vegan Food, Affirmations, Spiritual practice, Holistic practitioners and Unconditional love, these boys help Frank in transforming his health, his relationships, his weight and his view of himself and the world, and ultimately helping him fall in love with himself again.

Highly recommended and I also recommend the Play it Forward concept that for a mere $3 you can give this as a gift of inspiration.

Sit back have a shot of wheatgrass and enjoy

A Cherokee Grandfather’s Story

An old Cherokee Indian was teaching his grandchildren about life.
He said to them,

“A fight is going on inside me.  it is a terrible fight, and it is between two wolves.
One wolf represents fear,anger,envy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity,guilt,resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride , superiority, ego and unfaithfulness.wolves
The other wolf stands for joy, peace, love, hope, sharing, serenity, humility, kindness, forgiveness, benevolence, friendship, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion, and faithfulness.  The same fight is going on inside you and inside every other person too.”

They thought about it for a minute, then one child asked his grandfather,  “Which wolf will win, grandfather?”

The old Cherokee replied simply, “The one you feed.”

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